Before founding Life Beyond The Mask in 2003, Managing Director, Paul Ryder was a personal fitness trainer since 1995 and a Strategic intervention coach and trauma therapist since 2000.
As a successful author and public speaker, Paul is on a continual journey to create a means for people to access learning tools and materials that will make a difference in all aspects of life, from emotional well-being, confidence building, social-psychology, conflict resolution, goal setting and building better relationships.
Paul has used and still regularly uses all of the methods which he now teaches that brought him from a place of fear and worry to the confidence to live a happy and fulfilling life. Paul has taken the learning and is on a continual journey to transform complex information of emotional intelligence such as guilt, fear, shame, self esteem and love into format which is easy to understand.
Where it all began
As you read this section please do not deem it as some ‘poor me’ story looking for attention through a plea of victim hood. Far from it, as the journey now has come full circle bringing with it confidence and self esteem.
For the first few years of my life it was as any healthy child’s life should be, fun and enjoyment! Although the turning point came, (and one which I genuinely see as something which helped me become who I am today) when I was about 8 years old where, due to my shy non confrontational personality at that time I started to have challenges with other children at school, which quickly developed in to bullying both emotionally and physical. For many years this continued because of not knowing what to do or having access to the right support and due to low self esteem, there was an element of shame that many people in this situation go through. So I kept my reality hidden.
However, shortly after turning 17 I was fortunate enough to meet a man who taught me about health and well-beinge. I left school at 7 stone in weight, but although I was being bullied I had a fire and determination that I received from my family attitude and started the road to living my life.
From the age of 17 to 20 my life was a dedicated regime of: go to work, come home, exercise with a mixture of weight lifting, martial arts, cycling and running, backed up with constant reading of personal development books on stress management, social psychology, the mind, how to communicate and anything else I could get my hands on. I would cycle to work listening to the great authors and study continually the attitudes and mentalities of my chosen mentors such as Arnold Schwarzenegger, Jack Canfield, Tony Robbins, Bruce Lee and many others. The more I studied the more determined I became. Although at that time I had a scrawny frame, no friends, no money and was still being bullied, I had an ever increasing fire to get to the life where I had great friends, happiness, love and abundance in my life. I wasn’t there yet but I vowed never to quit until I succeeded.
The journey was challenging, but as the phrase goes, “Quitters never win and winners never quit” Slowly and surely I created a cast iron foundation that has lead me to the life I lead today of freedom of thought and to love the person I am. Through my journey one of the valuable life changing lessons I learned was that peace comes not from overcoming every challenge but how we feel inside when facing those challenges.
The myth of a challenge free life
I remember a year or so ago when I was approached by a student on training workshop I was teaching and he said to me how it must be great to have such a peaceful life with no challenges, I smiled and said “yes your right, it would be, and if you get there before me, let me know how it feels” An ability to love who we are and have freedom of thought does not mean that life will be challenge free; the only people who do not have challenges are in the grave.
I wish you all the best on your journey
About Life Beyond The Mask…
Established in 2003, Manchester based Life Beyond The Mask is a coaching and training organisation that works with those people or companies that peak performance. The Founder of the company, Paul Ryder, has been a coach and trainer in the health, fitness and psychological field for over 12 years. Clients can enjoy private consultations at our Manchester City Centre offices , or alternatively at their premises – as long as a private meeting room is available.
As a leading provider of personal development education we aim to support our clients in 3 key areas;
3. Written and audio training material
Paul Ryder firmly believes that every individual has the right to reach their chosen goals and live the life they desire through expressing their true self.
My aim is to help every client be the best they can be, to learn and grow by creating the right environment, and use world class tools and technologies that work.
I am also aware that some people may be unsure of how to reach these states or have never been taught an effective strategy of acquiring this lifestyle. The techniques we employ moves each individual to reach their chosen goals and lifestyle through effective education, processes, training and creative thought.